This is so true. Whenever I used to put effort into something, I looked for outcomes that were on the extremes.If the outcome wasn’t something that I could categorise as a win, I would feel dejected. And because of the high standards that i had created for myself, i often felt miserable. So I slowly started to change my mentality, and now I focus on the journey rather than the end result. Which I must say has brought a bit more peace in my life. You hit the nail right on the head Melody Wilding.